Grief and Holidays

For those of us who are grieving, the holiday season rarely lives up to the picture-perfect ideals seen on cards and screens. Following the death of a loved one, the traditional holiday focus on joy and togetherness can feel incredibly challenging.

It is important to put your feelings into perspective. Holiday pressures are real, causing stress even for those not currently grieving. When you factor in loss, that stress level can skyrocket. Do not judge your own emotions. Whether your loss was recent or long ago, a wide range of emotions—sadness, anger, exhaustion, or even surprising moments of peace—are "normal."

Flexibility and preparation can be helpful tools to navigate the holiday season. You can take control by making specific plans and securing the support you need before the season begins. Here is a link to the Griever’s Bill of Rights from the Heartlight Center that may help you understand and express your needs and hopes.

Also, do your best to prioritize self-care. Your physical well-being is closely tied to your emotional resilience. Make sure to eat regular, nourishing meals, get adequate rest, and avoid using alcohol or other substances to self-medicate or numb your feelings.